OK, thanks for the input so far...
Remembering that I'm ~20kgs heavier than Nitram:
Front.In standard form, the front sagged a lot - made the bike very twitchy and impossible to ride at more than sedate trail pace. Stock springs are 0.42s, and I've got 0.46s. The sags are now good.
Forks feel quite good on compression - soaks up the little stuff well, but didn't bottom noticably in the bush (and only very mildly on the MX track).
It rebounds a bit too quickly, but I'm quite happy with the forks overall.
Rear.The rear sags are fine with the stock spring - its a lot stiffer than the front, presumably so that the bike can cope with a pillion. The rear doesn't squat much under power, but I had been assuming that was due to the lack of power?
Had to wind a lot more rebound dampening into the rear shock after it tried to kill me on some moderate whoops. I think its 6 turns out on the rebound (of 22 possibilities). Compression adjuster isn't very sensitive - its set just to the hard side of the middle, after both extremes were obviously wrong, and no mid-range setting was obviously better than other mid-range settings.
Lights.The lights are only marginally heavier than stock, but they do sit a lot further away from the triple clamps than stock. Obviously this increases the pendulum effect - their weight is noticable once the bike is knifing in, but I don't think they're the cause of the problem.
Back to the brains trust.